Thursday, July 28, 2011

Sexual Inadequacy in Marriages Erectile Dysfunction (ED) What Women Need to Know Treatment

What is Erectile Dysfunction (ED),

It is not a deadly disease,

but it can signal other deadly health problems


 Dubai woman sues ex-husband for $12 million for depriving her of conjugal rights


Latest update:  

05 Sep 2011
A Frenchman has been ordered to pay his ex-wife £8,500 in damages for failing to have enough sex with her during their marriage.  Here.

May 5, 2011 2:18 PM (CBS) - A Dubai woman is suing her ex-husband for 45 million Dirhams (about $12 million) because he wouldn't have sex with her during their marriage. 

The unidentified woman told the court her ex-husband suffers from sexual impotency which caused her mental and emotional anguish by failing to fulfill her needs, it was reported by Gulf News, an English language newspaper in the Arab emirate. Source here.

Sexual Inadequacy in Marriages
For a variety of reasons, most wives would not consider public discussion of the sexual inadequacy in their marriages even with their parents or closest friend. No one likes having to confront this very uncomfortable subject.

Since the issue is very sensitive, it is impossible to know how many men suffer from erectile dysfunction. It has been estimated that about 5 percent of 40-year-old men and 25 percent of 65-year-old men suffer from this dysfunction.  There's no doubt that erectile dysfunction puts a big strain on many relationships.

Either partner or both may start showing signs of stress and in some cases due to the strain emotionally, on their family as well. Below are just a few of the feelings a woman may experience:

  • Rejection
  • Sexual frustration
  • Display withdrawal symptoms -  depression, anxiety and insomnia.
  • Anger - Very frequently, she'll assume that her man has found another woman and is having an affair or that her husband has become gay.
  • Shame -   
  • Self-doubt - 
  • Felt cheated -
  • Unattractive -  She may think there is something repulsive about her body.
  • Abandoned - she decides that she wants a divorce.

The ED patient typically suffers from the following: denial about their condition,  guilt, depression, anxiety, frustration, low self esteem. These feelings are quite commonly reported as one of the many side effects of erectile dysfunction. Such feelings not only affect a man’s self-esteem, he may even begin to emotionally and physically withdraw from or reject his partner.

What is Erectile Dysfunction (ED)

Erectile dysfunction is when a man can't get an erection to have sex or can't keep an erection long enough to finish having sex. (It used to be called impotence). Many times ED is not purely a psychological problem like many once believed, but a physical one that can be successfully treated.



Erectile dysfunction (ED) varies in severity. It can be of three types. They are; the total failure to achieve erection, inconsistency in the ability to get erection or a habit or tendency to sustain erection for the very shorter period of time. ED is not a deadly disease, but it can signal other deadly health problems;

  • Arteriosclerosis or hardening of arteries.
  • Hypertension.
  • Diabetes.
  • Heart disease.
  • Neurological disorders.
  • Neurological diseases.
  • Diseases of the lower urogenital tract, e.g. cancer prostate, penile deformities.
  • After pelvic surgery.
  • Certain medications.
  • Others

ED is still a taboo subject but we should look at it in perspective as the subject of sexual disorder is not something men are open to talk about. As a result, they don't get the help that could resolve their problem with ED.

Warning Signs of Erectile Dysfunction

If you don't see your doctor, these problems will go untreated. Assessment and treatment for ED is an important avenue for improving men's health. For many, treating ED is just as important as treating underlying medical illness and adopting a healthy lifestyle. More here.

What Women Need to Know

The more you and your partner know about erectile dysfunction, the better you will be able to manage this sexual issue together. If successful and effective management is to be achieved, the evaluation and discussion of any intervention should include both partners.
More here, here and here.


  1. hi katrina, not exactly my subject to ponder :) but i marvel at the dubai lady 12m is really worth it, but how many hubbys have that kind of money, especially di sini kan? this kind of suing is not common in our land, else.... die standing huh

  2. According to records the defendant is a wealthy man who has reportedly been married 12 times.

    To imagine the number of women who suffered in silence before her? If this does not stop just here, how many more women will become his victims?