Monday, January 23, 2012

Sexual Abuse – Justice for victims?

Updates:  08 August 2012
Puzzling and frightening verdict  - here
"National bowler escapes custodial sentence for statutory rape"


I was once living in a remote secondary jungle area when I first got married. To get to the nearest town, if weather permits, will take hours - jungle tracks, dirt roads and two river crossings. 

Childbirth? Villagers seek the services of midwives to help deliver babies. I became acquainted to one of them; a gentle and pleasant lady who reminded me of my mum back home. We developed a special strong relationship, close enough for her to be willing to share her tiny-winy secrets with me.

It was during one of our quiet moments alone when she confided to me an incidence that had been troubling her conscience for weeks. A baby she recently delivered - the new mum’s father is also the father of the baby. The man’s wife and his family knew but decided to keep quiet about the whole affair?

Disgusted, shocked and angry yet just like them, after taking all possibilities into consideration, I too decided to remain silent. That was about all I did – feel for the unfortunate girl and her baby, fullstop? It had been 20 years, always on my mind and yet not a word to anyone!


“There really is no darker secret than sexual abuse” – said Oprah in her November 1986 talk show where she revealed to her audience that she was raped by a 19yr old relative when she was only 9years old – here

and even recently,

Rape victim was 9 years old when she got pregnant, here


……Not enough people understand what rape is, and, until they do..., not enough will be done to stop it. — rape victim, quoted in Groth 1979 (p. 87) .... A Natural History of Rape, (book review).

..... Rape is a conscious process of intimidation by which all men keep all women in a state of fear... 

 “A world without rapists would be a world in which women moved freely without fear of men. That some men rape provides a sufficient threat to keep all women in a constant state of intimidation, forever conscious of the knowledge that the biological tool must be held in awe, for it may turn to weapon with sudden swiftness born of harmful intent.” – Susan  Brownmiller in Against Our Will: Men, Women, and Rape - 1975

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