The most expensive engagement ring is
the one Paris Kasidokostas Latsis gave to Paris Hilton when he proposed to her
in 2005. It had a huge emerald cut cubic zirconia center stone and flanked by
two trillion in white gold.
Paris Hilton later auctioned off this
$4.7 million engagement ring for the victims of Hurricane Katrina. HERE.
Early this year, a couple so in
love with each other came to see me for their special surprise announcement.
After knowing each other for only 2months, they decided to get married! Nothing will
ever change their mind, they are so “IN LOVE” and everything sounded so perfect.
There are many lucky ones where love
at first sight leads to a long lasting happy marriage.
However, 5months into marriage,
I started getting late night calls from this frantic new bride. She was shocked,
on and on pouring her endless tales of sorrow - the man of her dream is now
giving her nightmares!
Oh why must it be me to have to
listen to all her ramblings? I am no marriage counselor, however her woes were
so sad, pleading and touched me deeply. A wrong word of advice from me can be
explosive and disastrous!
Women have their own
fantasies in life, to find the
ideal man, get married, raise his wonderful kids and lead a perfect life
together. No two women are alike and even individual preferences in men differ
however all women crave more or less the same qualities in men. What are the
qualities in men that attract women?
1. RESPONSIBILITIES
The
man’s job is to be the provider and women hold men to that very idea, and as
Muslims the Quran clearly laid down the roles and responsibilities expected of a
husband and a wife in a marriage. (Many good books around, just in case we need
to brush up on this topic). Responsibilities cover a wide area of expectations;
- That you are financially responsible or at least having a steady job that will generate regular income for the family.
- Having good judgement, it represents maturity in men, and maturity is all about responsibility and a man with good judgment will help to provide a stable family life.
- Coming up with sound and firm decisions - when it comes to making important decisions, women expect men to be in charge and to make the right moves. Talk and discuss things out rationally so both are in agreement.
2. RELIABILITY
Women
like to be able to count on their man at all times, especially during troubled
times.
.......An
exceptional lady I truly adore and admire once related her story “I stepped
on a brick and suddenly fell down while drying the clothes and was unable to move.
The very moment my husband heard from the doctors that I will be paralyzed for
life, waist down, without giving any
warning, he packed his bag and left us, my little 2year old baby girl and I were left stranded".
Sheer determination and for the love of life, she now helps manage a self-help center “Independent Living”, (ILTC MALAYSIA). This center was formed by the disable and for the disable (men and women).
3.
HONESTY AND LOYALTY
Women
value trust and understanding - one of the
most important characteristics in a relationship. A faithful man makes his
woman feel appreciated, special and loved.
Be
honest, it insults and hurtful if you’re
cheating on her. Why must you cheat on someone who had so much trust and
confidence in you?
4.
SENSE OF HUMOUR
Having
a sense of humour is one of the most wonderful gifts in life. They say laughter
is the best medicine. Indeed it is, cheap and effortless. It is not difficult,
right? Look at what Mr Bean is giving to the people all around the world. Fun
and laughter and millions simply adore him!
5. SECURITY.
Women
need not only financial security (not a priority today as many women have their
own career) but most importantly the physical security from men to protect her
at all time. God created us such that males will forever be of the stronger
gender.
6. INTELLIGENCE
Women
seek to connect with men who are generally wiser and smarter than they are to
enjoy mental and emotional stimulation - helps a long way to keep the
relationship interesting and exciting.
These
will be felt even by your kids, who will boast and impress their friends that
their father is the best, yes this confidence will be felt by all in the
family.
7. AFFECTIONATE
Affection
can take many forms such as kind gentle words expressed with warm heartfelt
sincerity; touch and physical affection are critical to women because they view
it as a strong expression of love, concern and caring.
Kindness,
sweet words and physical touch are also healing to the spirit and help to deepen
the connection between the two. Express
your affection through simple gestures, small gifts or taking her for a deserving
holiday as means to show your appreciation for all her sacrifices taking good
care of your home.
Affection
is another gift from God, it comes naturally.
8.
MANNERS AND HYGIENE.
Mind
your manners in front of a woman. Girls are usually affectionately protected by
their parents since they were born and it can be a shocking experience to see
their man acting so rude or with no proper manners.
And
keep up with your sense of hygiene. Women strive to ensure they look beautiful
for you at all times and they will expect the same from you.
9. IN-LAWS
This
can be a very significant contribution to a happy relationship or a marriage.
Imposing and interfering in-laws may be a determining factor to a healthy
relationship or may destroy it altogether, keep this in check at all times.
There are many more qualities that a woman looks for in a man. No one person can have all the qualities as above, men or women alike. To build a happy home is never easy but once we make a decision to take someone as our soul-mate we have to learn to do our best to ensure a long and happy lifetime together.
So gentlemen out there, treat your woman with
care and gentleness, we all depend on your strength
to guide us for a better future.
May God bless us all..
PS: The picture of Paris Hilton and her $4.7m
engagement ring is for illustration purposes only. I got one like this, plain and simple and am happy!
What about Terry Wayne Fator and a wedding ring? Read here.
i know that i look and behave like mr bean. some women just want that: an idiot for a husband so he could be easily controlled.
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Hi uncle Rem,
ReplyDeleteDon't get women wrong. If they control you MEANS they are so horribly and passionately in love with you - you should be honoured!
I have watched MrBean for (pic) countless times, tak pernah jemu.. and who else can you do this except with your dear wife, right?... and (ssshhh.. whisper) at times I do this to strangers who keep on staring at me when my car stops at traffic lights and just about to turn green.. ha! Love to see their startled looks!
Cheers
One of the most attractive qualities that a man can have is confidence, and you will find that if you have it, you will have plenty of company. It does not matter what you really do, or how you really feel, confidence can be faked. A person who is happy and confident is very attractive, so walk around as if you own the place and many people will just assume that you do.
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